Happy Valentine’s Day to all our wonderful readers. Today we wanted to share a Lasting Love session, we so love when we can tell the story of a couple who has lasted the test of time. Afterall that’s what it’s all about.
We asked Carroll and Jerry:
How did you two meet? Tell us your story!
We met in October of 1964. Sharon’s version: Initially, we met at my apt. building. Our door was open and I heard this clattering of feet coming down the stairs. We knew the guys upstairs, but didn’t know this one. I was a little startled because I immediately felt that I would like to know him. Very good looking – but, he was in quite a hurry to get going. Think he was nervous and wanted to keep moving. So much for that. The following Friday – which happened to be my birthday, a mutual friend (upstairs neighbor) introduced us at Jerry’s, the bar next door. The rest is history. Carroll’s version: We were introduced by friend who lived in my building (same as above). Carroll “took a liking to me” right from the start. That Sunday, we went to the Fin and Feather on Vliet St. to watch the Packer game. I was a little surprised that she liked football and would go to a bar to watch it.
What advice do you have for other married couples now that you have been married so long?
Carroll: Communication, patience, admitting when you are wrong, telling her that I love her. Sharon agrees with all of that and adds: mutual respect, not disagreeing in front of the kids about issues that involve discipline, careful decision making i.e. identifying problems and why they occur, and looking for solutions.
Sharon: Telling him I love him every day and kiss each other good night every night.
What are your favorite memories as a family?
Many memories in 47 years! Hard to answer. Carroll says: Birth of our children, watching them grow up, trips to Door County, participating in kids’ lives together. Sharon says: Living in Westchester, going to family events, just being together at home.
What do you love most about each other?
Carroll: She’s always there for me. She does so many things for other people when they are in need. Sharon: Carroll has always known what I need before I do. The cars always have gas. Frequently the car is in the driveway and warm before I get out the door. Carroll puts things in their place before I lose them – and then helps me find them after I lose them.
What have you learned over your years of marriage?
Sharon: We don’t have a fancy marriage, but it works really well. I’ve learned to believe that a marriage of two people is a marriage of cultures – because each person has come from a different set of circumstances. If we don’t try to learn about and understand the culture and life experience of the other person, we will not understand the decisions they make or the actions they take. That can only lead to trouble. That cultural difference never totally goes away – and it shouldn’t – so the awareness must always continue. I don’t believe most people think about that before they are married – possibly why there are so many divorces.
Carroll: Don’t take things too seriously. Have a sense of humor and try to remember when it’s time to listen.