What have you learned over your years of marriage?
I think patience is probably key. Living abroad has forced us to really rely on each other. There are times to take a step back and a deep breath and know things will get better. Also, from the beginning, we’ve always been able to laugh with each other. I think having a sense of humor and knowing there are times to laugh are important.
What do you love most about each other?
That we allow each other to be ourselves. Being expats, not wanting to be parents – there are a lot of choices we’ve made that are atypical of a ‘normal’ marriage. I think that we trust and accept the other is important. Also, having unconditional support is key. Support is more than just knowing the other person is there for you – it’s the unwavering belief that someone will be behind you every step of the way.
What advice do you have for others who are planning their vow renewal?
Make it all about you! While the first wedding might involve expectations from family members, the vow renewal can be completely under your control. As Eric and I changed as a couple, the renewal seemed the appropriate place to make the entire event our own. Also, plan on giving your guests as much notice as possible. Given we were having a destination celebration, I wanted friends and family to have plenty of time to save money and make plans in their respective calendars to attend.
What was your most memorable moment about your vow renewal?
Elvis had to take the cake. From the beginning, we knew we wanted to have a ‘traditional’ Vegas wedding and to us that meant involving Elvis. We went to the ‘Love Me Tender’ package at Little Chapel of the West – one I would definitely recommend. Just like any wedding – it went too fast! I’m already joking about our 25 year renewal – I’m thinking of a cruise.